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 Have you ever felt the pain of rejection? I know I have, more often than I'd care to share. There's nothing in scripture which indicates that it's a sin to feel rejection, but I believe it can become one if we allow it to disable the relationships in our lives. Feeling something and allowing something to control us are two very different things. It's not wrong to feel hurt or rejected, but if we allow those feelings to stay and make a home in our hearts, we are giving those feelings the reigns that steer the carriage.
   Rejection can lead to unforgiveness, which in turn leaves no room for the forgiveness of our own sins. Rejection not only can affect our spiritual well-being, but it can also affect our physical health as well. Did you know that rejection piggybacks on physical pain pathways in the brain? A study has been done which shows taking Tylenol can
actually dull the physical effects that rejection brings. Is that crazy or what?



   Rejection also destabilizes our 'need to belong.' In each one of us there exists a need to belong. If you think about it from a biblical perspective it rings very true. God has placed a need to belong in all of us, which is what keeps us needing one another, and we absolutely belong in the body of Christ. Yet when rejection comes in we can all of a sudden feel like we don't belong in the body anymore and begin to withdraw ourselves. Rejection does not respond to reason. Studies have shown that after the victim has perceived they have been rejected, even if no real rejection has occurred, they will not be able to be convinced that they were not actually rejected. There is no reasoning with rejection. 
   Unlike fragile human beings, God is not affected by rejection. Jesus was rejected by all men, yet he still died on the cross for us. He didn't allow rejection to keep him from the cross, rather he counted it as a part of his cross. I can't imagine the physical pain he must have experienced from the rejection alone. In his eternal state he was not affected, but since he was full man and full God, he felt every bit of pain we as humans feel. And he is still being rejected by many today, yet he keeps reaching and loving.
   If he would've allowed the rejection he felt to settle in his heart, he never would've accomplished God's will and we would still be dead in our sins today. He could have withdrawn himself from the garden and hid from the people who would reject him. Except he knew that if he allowed rejection to have its way, the enemy wins. If we allow rejection to keep us from reaching out to our family, friends, coworkers, and neighbors, the enemy wins. He wants us to be paralyzed with rejection, so that his will can be accomplished. But we are called to accomplish a different will, just like Jesus was. We are called to keep reaching, to push past the rejection and keep loving.
   He calls us to take up our cross and follow him, which includes being rejected by many. If they hate us, they hated him first. No servant is greater than his master. We cannot escape it, we must learn to accept it as part of our dying-to-self process; because ultimately, it's our pride that causes us to hurt from rejection. If we walk in the power of the Spirit, rejection has no power over us. We must humble ourselves to become like Him in every way.
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